Finding Purpose Beyond the Paycheck: An Intentional Conversation with Kelley Cornish

Nika White • May 14, 2025

Dr. Nika White recently hosted an insightful "intentional conversation" with a remarkable leader, Kelley Cornish. As the President and CEO of the TD Jakes Foundation (TDJF), Kelley brings nearly four decades of workforce experience and a passion for empowering communities with limited resources. Her journey to the foundation, a story she admitted she "would not have written" herself, is a testament to the power of connection and unexpected callings.


Before stepping into her role at TDJF, Kelley held significant leadership positions, including Executive Vice President and Chief Administrative Officer at Wells Fargo and Global Head of Diversity and Inclusion at TD Bank. Her impressive track record, marked by accolades like being named a Woman of Influence by Success Magazine, speaks volumes about her impact. Yet, it was a personal connection through her church in South Carolina that paved the way for her current purposeful endeavor.


In a fascinating twist, Kelley initially facilitated a partnership between Wells Fargo and the TD Jakes organization, a move she saw as a significant legacy-building moment. Retirement was on the horizon until a call from Mr. Jakes himself led her down an entirely different path – to lead his foundation. This unexpected transition placed her at the helm of an organization focused on financial inclusion, educational access, workforce readiness, and community transformation – a role she now embraces with profound purpose.


Beyond the Pulpit: Understanding the TD Jakes Foundation

Kelley illuminated the TD Jakes Group's multifaceted nature, emphasizing that the Foundation is just one of its vital pillars. Beyond the well-known Potter's House, there's T.D. Jakes Real Estate, focused on building thriving mixed-income communities, and T.D. Jakes Enterprises, encompassing his bestselling books, movies, podcasts, and entrepreneurial ventures.


The Foundation, born from Bishop Jakes' vision of a world where every community thrives, operates as a public 501c3 entity. Kelley astutely pointed out that their partnerships with corporations are rooted in this shared vision, transcending religious or political affiliations. The "secret sauce," as she called it, lies in the ability for partners to contribute to a broad, impactful vision that extends far beyond the church walls.


The Imperative of Intentional Reset

The conversation then shifted to a deeply personal and universally relevant topic: the need for intentional reset. Kelley, reflecting on her own experiences navigating the demands of a high-powered career, spoke candidly about hitting "walls" and the importance of pausing to recalibrate.


A pivotal moment arrived when her current leader at the Foundation recognized her need for a break and urged her to "go and deal with whatever you're feeling" and return at 100%. This led to a month-long intentional retreat, a period she described as crucial for regaining clarity and recognizing the extent of her exhaustion. This experience underscored the importance of proactive self-care and the transformative power of unplugging.


Dr. White echoed this sentiment, sharing her own triggers for recognizing the need to pause, such as shortened patience and feeling overwhelmed by external voices. Both leaders emphasized that burnout doesn't always manifest as complete incapacitation but can subtly erode focus, decision-making, and interpersonal interactions.


Chasing Purpose Over Position

A powerful theme that emerged was the shift from chasing position to pursuing purpose. Kelley, reflecting on her own career trajectory, acknowledged the allure of financial success in the corporate world. However, she emphasized that at this stage of her life, the intrinsic value of purposeful work takes precedence. This sentiment resonates with a growing desire across generations to engage in meaningful work that contributes to a greater good.


Kelley highlighted the tangible impact of the TD Jakes Foundation's work, from empowering underserved youth through STEAM and STEM programs to the remarkable success of the Texas Offenders Re-entry Initiative, which boasts significantly lower recidivism rates. This direct connection to transformative change fuels her passion and underscores the importance of their mission.


Life and Leadership Unplugged: Sharing the Journey

Inspired by her experience and recognizing a universal need among leaders, Kelley launched the "Life and Leadership Unplugged" podcast. This platform serves as a space for leaders to share their burnout experiences and strategies for intentional reset. The podcast has resonated deeply, revealing that many leaders are either actively practicing self-care or are unsure where to begin.


Through candid conversations with diverse leaders, the podcast explores various approaches to unplugging, from adventurous hobbies to quiet moments of reflection. A recent episode focused on mental health and the courage to embrace one's greater purpose, profoundly impacting listeners.


Kelley's personal Instagram account (@KelleyCornish) also provides leadership insights and reflections on the importance of resetting.


A Powerful Call to Action

The intentional conversation between Dr. Nika White and Kelley Cornish served as a powerful reminder of the importance of aligning our work with purpose, recognizing the signs of burnout, and prioritizing intentional reset. Kelley's journey, from the corporate world to leading a transformative foundation, underscores the profound impact of following a calling that extends beyond personal gain. Her vulnerability in sharing her own experiences and the wisdom gleaned from them offers invaluable lessons for leaders and individuals alike, urging us to listen to our inner cues and embrace the necessity of unplugging to thrive in the long run.


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